Domination & Submission

Yes, that is what I’m talking about.

If it comes as a surprise to see me talking about power dynamics, about BDSM and control and sadomasochism — then my sincerest apologies for hiding a part of myself that keeps me most vibrant. So many people have sensed it even without my marketing to it, and reached out to offer their servitude or to inquire about my not-so-hidden depravities… but for those of whom it wasn’t obvious? Let’s remedy that.

As sweet, wholesome (just kidding), and gentle as I may appear, by not speaking to my kinks and love of power dynamics, I’m doing myself and my dates a great disservice. What was holding me back? Well, there’s an added stigma for sure, especially around submission (how could you give up so much control? But, on the contrary, how could I ignore such an important part of my sexuality?), and people don’t seem to understand switches in a professional context. There’s a lot of weird purity ideas around whether someone can be a good, or “proper” (by arbitrary definition), Domme while also participating in more girlfriend-like engagements or — dare I say it? — by also submitting.

Let me tell you right now, that my experiences on both ends of the spectrum are wholly part of me and they are not separate. I don’t mean that a session where someone requests me to submit will end in me dominating them (though that’s a role play that I fully recommend setting up on purpose!) Rather, my domination informs my submission. My submission informs my domination. I am a better top because I have bottomed, and a better bottom because I have topped. I have a better sense of control for the times I have let someone control me. Call it well-rounded or market research, call it degrading to your average Domme, call it whatever you will, it works for me.